No more diets and deprivation. Eat the foods you love and have a great body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
by Harriet Frew on March 2nd, 2017

You might feel dubious about how therapy could help you overcome an eating disorder. Perhaps the eating disorder feels entrenched into your identity and losing it would feel like losing a life-long friend?  Maybe you have fears about change and feel anxious when considering a life without it? How can a counsellor possibly help you untangle this complicated relationship you have with the eating disorder? These can be real and common anxieties when someone is thinking about having therapy.

 Here are 9 ways that therapy can help: 


1.     AMBIVALENCE: it is likely that you might feel in two minds about change. One part of you desperately wants to move on and let go of a destructive relationship with food and your body. However, another part of you just can’t. This can feel confusing as your feelings about the eating disorder might vary day-by-day or hour-by-hour. Your therapist can help you explore this ambivalence and recognise what the eating disorder means to you. Maybe it is a way of coping with difficult feelings? Maybe it is a way of trying to control your weight? Maybe it is deeply familiar and offers safety and reassurance? In therapy, you can gain greater understanding about your ambivalence, and this can put powerful building blocks in place for change.....

by Harriet Frew on February 16th, 2017


As we've reported countless times before on ELLE, anxiety and depression are real threats to the population's wellbeing, affecting at least one in five people and with women being 70 per cent more likely to succumb to it during their lifetime than men, according to a YouGov survey conducted for Mental Health Awareness Week and The National Institute for Mental Health respectively.

Here at ELLE, we take as proactive an approach as possible towards managing anxiety among our staff and we urge that you do too.
Recently we invited Louise Chunn, founder of Welldoing.org, and Harriet Frew, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, to speak to the ELLE team, identifying for us some key ways to tackle anxiety and symptoms of depression from the outset.

Here is what they had to say...

by Harriet Frew on January 3rd, 2017

It’s that time of year again, a brand new year waits, bursting with vibrant possibility and hope. It’s a gleaming, clean slate for new beginnings.

This is the year to become the shinier, improved version of yourself, and with this in mind; you create your list of promising resolutions. Typically, these might include: losing weight; getting fit and healthy; cutting down on drinking; getting organised or stopping smoking to name a few. You are optimistic and expectant. Never mind that you have set the same resolutions for the past few years.

January is a cruel time to inspire change though. The weather is cold and bleak; we are struggling financially after the Christmas splurge and summer feels a long time away. It is not surprising that New Year’s resolutions are often broken six weeks in, when motivation has dwindled, mood is low and we are looking for creature comforts more than ever.

But maybe pure willpower and a whole bucket-load of good intentions isn’t a recipe for sustainable change, without delving a bit deeper into these issues? If you’re overeating or drinking too much ..............

by Harriet Frew on December 21st, 2016

On the first day of Christmas I gave a gift to me: LETTING GO

I’m letting go of the ‘perfect Christmas’ myth and appreciating that it exists only on the television and in my dreams. I’m going to work on enjoying this holiday with all its imperfections and chaos.


On the second day of Christmas I gave a gift to me: ASKING FOR HELP

I don’t have to ‘do it all’ this Christmas and then feel overwhelmed and resentful. Instead, I am giving myself permission to share the work-load and to ask my family and friends for help. 


On the third day of Christmas I gave a gift to me: NO MORE PLEASING

I’m giving up on the notion of trying to please everyone this Christmas. It is an unachievable and totally impossible task.
 

by Harriet Frew on December 10th, 2016

Christmas has been quietly approaching since the cards and decorations decked out the department stores at the end of September. Now with just weeks to go, the pressure is rising to a crescendo to create the magical, idealised Christmas with individually thought-out presents, beautifully decorated houses, joyful families and the hopes of a few snowflakes too.  

Although Christmas can bring happiness and sparkle, it is also a time when your wellbeing can be seriously affected. Stress, loneliness, eating difficulties, low mood and relationship issues can all be exacerbated around this period. Being aware of this and then prioritising your wellbeing over the next month could bring a smoother and happier ride for you and your loved ones. 






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