Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Ditch the Diet this New Year. Invest in your mental health instead
by Harriet Frew on January 4th, 2019

​The button on your trousers is prodding uncomfortably into your stomach. You look guiltily at the shiny wrappers in the waste bin, a sombre reminder of the late-night Celebrations binge. Self-loathing seeps through every pore as you finish off the final three: ‘I’m fat anyway, so why not?  You consider that you might as well, before the healthy eating regime begins.

This regime it is not a diet – it says that in the marketing spiel. It’s a ‘transformation plan’ and it seems to include a lot of green vegetables. Said plan looks promising, enticing you with high expectations of success. You picture yourself, lithe and lean-limbed, showing off your new bod by Valentine’s Day. You can already hear the comments of ‘oh you’ve lost weight, you look amazing’ sweetly ringing in your ears.

You have momentarily forgotten the quantities of hard-earned cash spent on previous diets and the many hopes squandered in the process. If the truth be known, you have lost and gained the same 10lbs more times than you care to remember. In fact, your weight might have crept up a pound or two in the last few years.

With a new year dawning, it is seductive to prioritise weight loss and body transformation as a passport to renewed confidence and self-esteem. Sadly, the plans that promise, often cannot deliver long-term, being wholly unsustainable and impractical. Crucially, they have the potential to disrupt your relationship with food whilst exacerbating the critical voice, that damns self-esteem and judges eating.

What if you ranked your mental wellbeing more highly?  

Posted in Being mindful, Christmas, Dieting, Emotional eating, Giving up dieting, Habit, Intuitive Eating, New Year, Self-care, Self-compassion, Self-esteem, self-help, Values    Tagged with New Year, new year resolutions, new year diet, nodiet, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, mental health, wellbeing, resolutions, goals


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Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image