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3 proven tips for boosting self-esteem
by Harriet Frew on July 10th, 2018



'Embrace the glorious mess that you are' - Elizabeth Gilbert - I love this quote.

You don't have to be perfect. I used to give myself such a hard time for the things I wasn't good at. 

I would feel hopelessly inadequate for my poor arithmetic skills or map reading ability. I would then beat myself up relentlessly for not being good enough, and compare myself to others, then feeling inferior.  What a waste of time that was! It was certainly NOT self-esteem building!

It stopped me focusing on the things I could do, like being creative, writing or being a good friend to others. It lowered my mood and always left me wanting.

Thankfully, I don't do half as much critiquing or judging myself anymore. Instead, I focus on my strengths - not in an arrogant way, but a gentle acknowledgement of things I do have to offer the world.

I am now okay with my weaknesses - other people can be good at maths (my children are already leaps and bounds ahead)!

And don't ever trust me with a map when you are navigating anywhere away from Cambridgeshire! You are guaranteed to become frustrated and very lost.

Even on a bad day, I still have big hair! It can be frizzy, but overall I feel it is very much part of me! :)

My 3 proven tips to raise self-esteem

1. STOP THE COMPARISONS RIGHT NOW -
  • That means ones with the girl at work who always looks so put together.
  • The ones of fit women on Instagram who are airbrushed within an inch of their lives.
  • The ones with your sister-in-law, who has a super-duper kitchen that she can swing a cat in (if she wanted to of course!)

2. NOTICE YOUR PERSONAL QUALITIES AND STRENGTHS

You might not feel you have any, but you absolutely do.!

You just haven't taken a step back and noticed them yet.

If you struggle with this one, try jotting down things through the day as situations arise. I bet you find yourself being a good friend, a thoughtful colleague or showing kindness to the checkout man more than you ever realise.

3. TREAT YOURSELF WITH RESPECT, KINDNESS AND WARMTH

I am sure you treat your pet, your children, your friends or partner with thoughtfulness and care. Do you do the same for yourself though? If you neglect your own needs, you will feel resentful and worthless.

You are probably super busy and fitting in self-care might feel a squeeze. Prioritise it in though. I love having a sit down with a cup of coffee; reading a favourite book or relaxing in the bath. It lifts my mood and restores my energy. And, I feel so much better in my mood and self-worth!  I am also nicer to be around.

What are your self-esteem boosting tips? Do share below.




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